Everyone has feelings or thoughts that can feel really big and in some cases, unmanageable. This is no different for children, and it’s okay to seek counselling for your child for help in understanding their big feelings. It can be difficult to know where to start when bringing up the idea of counselling or therapy to a child, so here are a few tips to consider.

The goal is to make therapy feel normal, rather than a big deal. It can be helpful to liken it to something that the child does already, like going to the doctor.

Sometimes, our minds and hearts need a little extra help, just like our bodies do. Just like going to the doctor helps keep your body healthy, therapy helps keep your mind and emotions strong.

Sometimes it helps to mention yourself or someone you know who goes to therapy.

You know how I see so-and-so for talks? I thought you might like to have your own person to talk to as well so we're going to go and meet this person and see what they’re like. 

Sometimes children are familiar with the role of a school counsellor, and could be used as a comparison.

We're going to see someone like Mrs. M who has their own office and can talk about things that are on your mind. 

Or, equating it to having another adult “on their team.” 

Therapy is like having a special person who listens and helps you work through your feelings and thoughts. Imagine it as a fun and safe space where you can talk about anything that’s bothering you or something you’re curious about. This person is really good at helping people understand their emotions and finding ways to feel better.

For some children it can be reassuring to know that the caregiver can be in the room for the first session (and subsequent sessions if necessary). Having a brief meet-and-greet before a real session also helps de-mystify the whole process, and allows the child to get familiar with the location and person.